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HAVE VISION BEYOND YOUR CIRCUMSTANCES.

 

When we’re injured, or off our game, or feel like our hands are tied behind our backs by life and we’re not able to do all the things we want to be able to do, it’s easy to get discouraged.

 

 

It’s so easy to get tunnel vision about our situation, fixated on our pain, or our injury, or all the ways we’re penned in or inconvenienced. Actually, it’s a natural reflex of the brain to have a ‘negativity bias,’ or immediately shift into thinking about what’s wrong.

 

So you’re not a Debbie Downer or a Negative Nancy if you find yourself getting sucked into ‘what’s wrong’ mode—it happens.

 

 

 

I know this one all too well, from having train-wrecked my low back/pelvis in a riding accident 10 years ago, from breaking my big toe 6 years ago and then developing a bone infection, from tearing a meniscus and needing surgery and six months of rehab to fix it 5 years ago, from needing 14 weeks of physical therapy to overcome tendonitis in my shoulder, and from recovering from tweaking my back last year, and from years and years of dealing with an all-too-often unpredictable and inconvenient Army lifestyle.

 

I get those feelings. I get how they can pull you under, how it can be tough to see anything but where you’re ‘stuck.’

 

This is exactly the time, however, when we need to refocus—to shift our perspective to one that searches for our CANs rather than dwelling on our can’ts.

 

Fixating on our can’ts keeps us stuck and struggling—at least mentally and emotionally. But refocusing on what we CAN do—that’s uplifting, empowering, and pushes us back into action.

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If you’ve got a lower body injury, shift your focus to what you can do with your core and upper body.

 

Running might be out for you, which means it might be a perfect time to dedicate yourself to training for doing those pull ups, push ups, nailing down a bulletproof heavy kettlebell swing, and developing those rock hard abs.

 

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If some part of your upper body is giving you the business, it’s a perfect time to start doubling up on your ab and glute work while you heal that elbow or shoulder.

 

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If your back is on the mend, it’s an ideal time to refocus all your training efforts on creating a super strong core and learn to make your hip muscles work better for you.

 

Here’s a short workout that might be right up your alley: https://youtu.be/ocdajYH7zE4

 

Focus on your CANS. Take back your power. Find the things you CAN do that keep you in the game—that keep you positive and proactive and building/maintaining muscle.

 

Then put all your energy into those projects with laser-like focus. Do what you need to heal or make it through the situation you’re in, but don’t let it suck you down.

 

Find your fight. Find your power. Find what you CAN do. Then CAN yourself forward.

 

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I wasn’t going to talk about these things…

 

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I wasn’t going to talk about these things.

 

I was just going to keep my social media posts ‘business as usual,’ which, these days, is all about how and why you should (at least consider!) work HIIT or interval training into your life.

 

 

And I will—and soon–because high intensity training, both strength and cardio, and interval training really can have some *fantastic* benefits for all of us at nearly every age and stage of life (we just have to structure these workouts a little differently, depending on the stage we’re in!).

 

 

But I feel compelled to talk about these things that I didn’t want to talk about because concealing them is a disservice to others.

 

It’s also perpetuating an image of ‘everything is fine and great and perfect and I have it all under control’ that doesn’t exist, and so to omit the not-so-perfect, potentially embarrassing stuff that also makes me feel extremely vulnerable is, well, lying. Because omission is more often than not a form of dishonesty.

 

 

I named my business ‘Real Life Fitness’ (which, being too generic, evolved into ‘Real Life Fit by Kate’) because my teaching/training/coaching is about being real, serving real people with real and messy and complicated lives—NOT perpetuating the glossy image of perfection and then dangling that falsehood as a carrot for clients to struggle to reach themselves.

 

 

I started running my in-person personal training business back in heyday of bikini and figure training, when Oxygen magazine ruled, and being ‘fit’ was synonymous with 15% body fat, having visible abs, tanned skin, and sculpted glutes.

 

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2012: My first year in business

That wasn’t something that was attainable for me—with a 5 and a 2 year-old, living overseas, dealing with deployments and the other rigors of military life—well, unless I was willing to go to some massive (and obsessive) extremes.

 

 

So my business was built on the crazy idea that we can all become fitter, stronger, more capable and satisfied versions of ourselves without needing to meet that aesthetically perfect ideal—that we get to define what’s fit and ‘ideal’ for ourselves, and we get to feel good in our own, perfectly imperfect, amazing bodies.

 

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These mil spouses are some badass ladies, btw.

Let me just tell you, by the way, that’s hard to sell as a catchy business slogan, lol!  

 

 

Long story short, by hiding my own struggles, I’m failing to be real, to be genuine, to be the person I’ve set out to be—online and in ‘real life.’

 

 

So here it is—one of the things I wasn’t going to talk about.

 

 

About 6 weeks ago, I tweaked my back (again).  The kind of tweak where it stops you dead in your tracks, makes you walk like a 90-year old, and makes normal, basic movement really slow and challenging.

 

 

I did it in the gym—not doing anything outrageous or inherently dangerous, but doing too much within a 24-hour period.

 

On Wednesday evening at 5:30, I deadlifted heavy (my old PR is now soooo doable) followed by a hard conditioning workout, then turned right around at 10 the next morning to do some heavy Kettlebell Strongman work.

 

 

In other words, I did exactly what I would NEVER advise a client to do.

 

 

While a little, tiny voice had whispered:  ‘maybe you should wait another day,’ my big ‘ol ego shouted, ‘You are Superwoman, you can handle this!!!”

 

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Here’s the deal:  I’ve mentioned before that a very bad fall from a horse started me down my current path of strength training, core training and consistent workouts back in 2006.  What I may or may not have mentioned is that I have scoliosis, and my back is anything but ‘straight.’

 

 

So, spinal discomfort and weird alignment issues are just part of what I deal with.  These weird ‘tweaks’ tend to happen when I’m going through times of peak stress, and when I haven’t been to a chiropractor/sports medicine doc regularly enough.

 

 

Luckily, this particular episode was less serious, thankfully, I was able to get really good treatment right away, and I was back in almost regular action in less than a week.

 

 

BUT, it scared me—it made me feel vulnerable, breakable, unworthy, and ashamed.

 

 

It made me feel like a fraud.

 

 

As in, ‘how can I talk about core strength, and keeping our backs healthy, give fitness advice, and teach CrossFit classes, for pete’s sake, when I can’t even keep my own back healthy?????’

 

 

Because of my feelings of shame and inadequacy, I didn’t say anything.  I  kept my limitations and discomforts quiet, and just focused on healing for a few days.  I didn’t want to be ‘found out’ or have people doubt my abilities or advice—especially as I was just getting started teaching classes again the following week!

 

 

And then…then I thought about some of the really outstanding coaches I know, respect, and look up to.

 

How they let the world know about their own injuries and/or limitations, how I actually thought more of them because they were brave enough to share, and how it definitely did not affect my respect for their coaching or athleticism.

 

 

Their injuries just made them humans, and infinitely more relatable and even MORE knowledgable because they knew what it was like to work with an imperfect body…just like me.

 

 

So here I am saying:  Hi, my name is Kate, I love to lift heavy, run hard, and do cool athletic things, and sometimes I get hurt because I have a perfectly imperfect body.  You know, like all us humans do.

 

 

I now know to double down on Dead Bug exercises when my spine gets hurt or tweaked, that sciatic nerve flossing is SUPER helpful, and that sleeping more and reducing stress really help the healing process.  I also understand that regular walks are really good for healing and stress management, too.

 

 

Which actually makes me a better athlete and coach than one who’s never gotten hurt, doesn’t know what it’s like to have limitations, and never had to recover.

 

 

“Shame hates it when we reach out and tell our story. It hates having words wrapped around it- it can’t survive being shared. Shame loves secrecy. When we bury our story, the shame metastasizes.”
~ Brené Brown

 
Well, while I’m at it, I’ll share another ‘shameful’ experience I’ve had over the past two months—gaining weight and bloating, both without direct causes.  Well, without being related to eating changes or changes in my exercise habits/intensity anyway.

 

 

After my period at the beginning of August, I continued to feel vaguely bloated, and my boobs never stopped being tender.  That stuff usually goes away by day 3.

 

 

I kept waiting, patiently but uncomfortably, but the bloating, swelling and tenderness just got worse.

 

And I know it was something other people could see, but not something I felt like explaining!

 

Sudden 5 lb weight gain/appearance changes in a personal trainer/CrossFit coach aren’t desirable, and don’t tend to lend a lot of confidence that you know what you’re doing or can coach nutrition habits!  It was embarrassing, and I just kept choosing loose-fitting tops to help hide my bloated midsection, hoping people wouldn’t notice, or wonder, too much.

 

By the end of the month, I was begging to get my period, and my bras were barely fitting.  And by this point, I realized that I was in another estrogen-dominant phase, like the ones I’d gone through in 2015.  I just hoped that this phase wouldn’t be months-long, like the ones I’d been through before.

 

Of course, I learned well from my past discomfort, and started implementing the strategies I’d found most helpful last time this happened:

 

First, I prioritized sleep—skipping that extra TV show, and taking time to wind down quietly instead by reading a fun fiction book in bed for 30 minutes..

 

Second, I started to put more attention and effort into stress-management:  when I felt myself getting riled up or holding my breath, I’d practice 5 slow, deep-belly breaths.  I started taking walks again—slow, outdoors, stopping to admire nature, breathing calmly and deeply throughout.

 

 

Third, I added more veggies to my diet and took out some of the less-helpful, starchy carbs.  I ate more protein, drank more water, and worked harder to make sure my meats were more organic than not.  Yes, this is more expensive, but when your hormones are taking you for a wild ride, the last thing you do is want to add MORE hormones to that mix from outside sources!

 

 

Which reminds me, I’ve stopped using candles, lotions, soaps, shampoos, and all kinds of other personal care products that contain unnatural fragrances, phalates, or parabens, which can have an estrogenic effect on the body.  I figure this is good for my daughter, who is just entering puberty, too!  These products are pretty easy to find in most stores these days, and the price difference isn’t too great if you get the store’s organic brands.

 

 

Fortunately for me, acting quickly seems to have helped the situation.  My cycle is still a little unpredictable, but my bras fit (thank goodness!), my mood is more stable, and my midsection is back down to a normal size.

 

 

So, here I am, saying:  Hi, my name is Kate, I’m 43, and I am officially somewhere on the perimenopausal spectrum, as much as I don’t want to be or feel old enough to be.  But it is what it is.

 

 

I guess the big takeaway is this:  we can influence things, change and adapt our eating habits, sleep patterns, fitness activities, and training plans, but we can’t absolutely control how our bodies will respond or change.  We also can’t control on what timeline our bodies might choose to respond and change.

 

 

What we can do is continue to build self-awareness, forgive ourselves our imperfections, accept our bodies as continuously evolving creatures, and just keep doing the best we can along the way.

 

 

And we can be honest about those things, too, because when we are brave with our own lives, we give other people to be brave with theirs.

 

 

“If we can share our story with someone who responds with empathy and understanding, shame can’t survive.”
~ Brené Brown

 

 

None of us need to suffer in silence, or go it alone, or feel ashamed when our human vehicles don’t act the way we want them to—or the way the media or internet or any of the ‘experts’ out there say it should.

 

 

I’ll make sure I do my part to stay brave and honest, so that other people and readers just like you can know that whatever you’re dealing with, it’s nothing to be ashamed of.

 

It is what it is, and we’ll just keep doing our best—individually and collectively, to adapt and evolve along our journey rather than hide and suffer in shame.

 

 

Always here for you, crooked back, crazy hormones and all!

Kate

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Your 30-Day ‘Motivation’ Fix!

***Coming August 15: The “Just Move It” 30-Day Challenge***

https://forms.aweber.com/form/15/842351815.htm

 

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Smack in the middle of my birthday workout last weekend, I was struck by an overwhelming feeling of gratitude–for my health, for the support and guidance I’ve had from so many amazing people on my journey, and for the vitality I’m enjoying at 43 years old.

 

 

 

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So I decided I needed to give back a little, or at least pay it forward.

 

 

Here’s the first step in my commitment to do what I can to support others in feeling their best, too, at any and every age.

 

 

***Coming August 15: The “Just Move It” 30-Day Challenge***
https://forms.aweber.com/form/15/842351815.htm

 

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This will be a consistency challenge, where the goal is to get in some kind of movement or exercise in every single day for 30 days STRAIGHT.

 

 

I know the dog days of summer and the start of school can throw our best plans for a loop, so this challenge is aimed at getting us all committed to moving daily, no matter the challenges.

 

 

7-day challenges are great for boosting intensity, but consistency is what gets us the real results, so this one is a full-on, 30-day challenge!

 

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What is the Just Move It 30 Challenge??

This is a challenge designed to help you build or reinforce consistency—to make some kind of intentional physical movement a part of your normal, everyday life.

 

 

The goal is to make moving or working out “just part of what we do.”

 

 

I’ve been working as a personal trainer and group fitness instructor for 5+ years, and the biggest obstacles to success I see people struggle with are Mindset and Consistency.

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The #JustMoveIt30 Challenge is my way of tackling both challenges at once to help you cultivate resilience in the face of challenge.

 

 

In other words, I want you to believe that you CAN do this—that you can stay active, strong, determined and empowered, even when things get tough.

 

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Starting August 15, participants in the “Just Move It 30” Challenge will engage in some kind of physical activity each day.

 

 

These bouts of physical activity can be:
*A ‘5-minute mini’
*Taking a walk
*Going for a run
*Going to a fitness class
*Doing yoga
*Lifting weights
*OR any other kind of workout

 

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ANY kind of intentional, physical movement counts, whether it’s 5, 10, 15, 20, 30 or more minutes in duration.

 

 

It doesn’t matter what KIND of movement you do, as long as you DO it each day.

 

 

For 30 days straight, we’re going to choose GRIT over quit!

 

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How to Participate:
–> First, sign up here: https://forms.aweber.com/form/15/842351815.htm

 

 

–>And then you’ll get the welcome email with ALL the nitty gritty.

 

 

–>Then, beginning August 15, you’ll do some kind of physical activity every single day for 30 days straight.

 

 

Outcomes of participating in the #JustMoveIt30 Challenge:
+ Increased determination
+ Find new ways of sneaking in workouts—even on busy days
+ Get out of the ‘all-or-nothing’ exercise mindset
+ Increased self-confidence
+An ‘I got this!’ attitude
+ Feelings of pride and accomplishment!

 

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AND you can win prizes, too!

 

 

  • EVERYONE who completes this challenge and submits a picture with the #JustMoveIt30 hashtag each of the 30 days wins a FREE 4-week CUSTOMIZED fitness plan designed to meet the unique needs of YOUR body and lifestyle (a $300 value)

 

Really! It’s my way of ‘giving back.’

 

 

I just celebrated my 43rd birthday, and I’m deeply grateful for another year on earth, and for being able to move and enjoy having a healthy body.

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One of the ways I’m choosing to show gratitude for the gifts I’ve been given and good health I enjoy is to give more of myself to others as well–to help women move more, feel better, lead more satisfying lives, and feel strong and vital, inside and out.

 

 

The Result:  The Just Move It 30-Day Challenge!

 

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Sign Up HERE: https://forms.aweber.com/form/15/842351815.htm

to Just Move It for 30 with me, too!

 

 

Questions? Message me OR email me at kate@reallifefitbykate.com

 

 

Here’s to becoming our best at every stage of life!
Kate

 

How adding more gets you better results.

Reset ButtonSo you got off-track.
Your best intentions for getting or staying on a regular exercise schedule didn’t pan out.
Maybe your ‘I’m going to start eating better’ plan didn’t come to fruition.
And you might be feeling a little disappointed, maybe a little lethargic, maybe a lot unmotivated.
What do you do now?
Go on some crazy, extreme ‘quick fix’ to get yourself ‘right’ again?
Throw out the baby with the bathwater in the process, while you throw yourself headlong into a massive diet-and-exercise overhaul…only to have it all backslide after 3 weeks of ‘being good’ and ‘on-plan’?
Or….
Or maybe you start over, TODAY, with just ONE small change that’s pointing you in a healthier, happier direction.
One small improvement you can make each day:  a ‘plus ONE’ approach.
Now, making one small change might sound, well, kind of insignificant, or maybe even a little wimpy.  It’s not the grand, brag-worthy, intense, restrictive, grueling ‘fix’ that you can tell everyone you’re toughing it out through.
Then again, how long would that grueling, Herculean effort actually last?  In my personal and professional experience, about 3 weeks.  Sometimes 4, but that’s pretty generous.  And it inevitably leads back to square one, in a hurry, with the extra mental baggage of having ‘failed’ once again.
So instead of trying to ‘right the ship’ all in one fell swoop, maybe using a more reasonable, realistic and just plain long-term effective approach, like the Plus ONE approach, is a better way to go right now!
Here’s the deal:
–>  +1 is always greater than zero
–>  +’everything all at once’ can only be a painful sprint effort at best
But Plus ONE?  Plus 1 is do-able.  It’s a small win, a consistent measureable sign of doing better that we can handle, that we can stick with, that we can feel proud of.
So what does this Plus 1 approach look like in real life?
It might depend on what your biggest challenges are currently, or what’s the easiest thing for you to tackle right away—because taking action is key to making this kind of approach work.  It might be something that you are super confident you can do consistently right now.
Possibilities, based on the challenges I regularly hear my clients and readers face, could include:
  • drinking one more glass of water each day
  • changing their after-dinner snack
  • adding in just one more serving of veggies each day
  • adding in just 10 minutes of movement to each day
  • adding in one strength training workout per week
  • adding a short walk to the after-dinner ritual
  • adding one serving of protein to breakfast (or lunch, or dinner…)
Notice it’s ALL about ADDING 1 thing IN, as opposed to taking things out, excluding or restricting or avoiding.
It’s about making workable additions and ‘crowding out’ old behaviors with new ones—because our brains aren’t wired to ditch old patterns of behavior (kind of inconvenient, I know), but they ARE wired to learn new patterns of behavior, and when these patterns are repeated many times over time, they become the ‘new normal.’
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That’s why consistency is such a big deal—and engaging in small, easily repeatable behaviors is so much more effective in creating the habits we want to have so that we can lead the kind of life we desire to lead.
It’s like what Tony Robbins says, “In essence, if we want to direct our lives, we must take control of our consistent actions. It’s not what we do once in a while that shapes our lives, but what we do consistently.”
Extremes, by nature aren’t sustainable.  Plus 1?  Those we can do every day.
And when the first Plus 1 becomes normal—just a regular part of daily real life, then you get to Plus 1 another thing.  By ‘plussing up’ regularly and consistently, you will effect massive change over time—on your mind, your body and your life.
Give the Plus 1 approach a shot TODAY!
Remember to think about ONE thing that either challenges you the most right now, or is the easiest to act on right now, or one positive change you are super confident you can do and stick with right NOW.
Maybe one of the suggestions above can be a great place for you to start!  Whatever it is, take action—don’t wait or hesitate.  Because it’s what we DO consistently that shapes our lives.
What are you waiting for? 🙂
Keep ‘plussing up’ and I’ll talk to you soon 🙂
Kate
PS–Here’s a link to a workout to get you moving.  It’s a fun, simple boredom-buster that you can do at home or in the gym!  https://youtu.be/vOjIXT-PPbM

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Why I talk about eating so damn much.

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Confession:  I am a very reluctant eating habit/nutrition coach.

 

I really don’t naturally love the topic of nutrition—it doesn’t get me fired up, and it took me a really long time to accept the role of nutrition in my personal fitness.

 

Like, a LONG time.

 

 

I was a very stubborn horse that had to be dragged to the water, and had to be dying of thirst before I would drink.

 

But, at a certain point (and I remember that pivotal moment—it’s what I call my ‘tiramisu epiphany,’ and you can read about it here: The Tiramisu Epiphany), I realized that I could not make any weight loss/fat loss progress without making some dietary changes.

 

 

That doesn’t mean it happened overnight!

 

 

My ‘tiramisu epiphany’ was in March of 2006.  Which means that my personal journey to eating better and in a sustainable way (that causes me little life stress, but still gives me the health and results I desire) started over 10 years ago.

 

 

Did it take some time? 

Sure! 

Was the time it took worth it?

ABSOLUTELY.

 

 

There was no major diet overhaul; I simply surrendered the illusion that I could ‘work off what I ate’ and started to pay more attention to what, when, how, and how much I was eating a little bit more. 

 

I made the changes I could tolerate slowly, and began a process of self-education that definitely accelerated once I started working with a personal trainer who provided me with better resources with which to help myself.

 

So I honestly don’t LOVE the subject of nutrition like some people do (which is why they are diet experts with all those credentials behind their names!), but I understand how necessary balanced nutrition is, and the giant role it plays in how we feel, the energy we have, and in weight loss, fat loss, and overall athletic performance.

 

I don’t love nutrition, BUT I do love my clients. 

 

 

And I love to help others have less stress, more fitness success, and more confidence and independence in their own lives, so talking about nutrition, eating habits, and eating strategies has become a ‘necessary evil’ of sorts.

 

 

It’s important for me to share what I’ve learned, through formal education as well as professional experience and personal practice, because it just might help a client, friend or reader like you to shorten the ‘eating habit learning curve. ‘

 

 

Sharing this information might just help you or someone you know to stop depending on the next diet for the solution—from engaging in stressful, restrictive, all-or-nothing approaches, and to make the needed small changes in daily practices that will yield the results we’re looking for.

 

 

And that’s HUGE in my book.

 

 

After I surrendered the illusion that I could ‘outrun my fork,’ so to speak, I also had to learn and come to terms with the fact that my eating habits/patterns were shaped by:  a) the messages I told myself, b) unconscious tendencies, c) compulsive behaviors, d) the urge to self-soothe.

 

 

 

Funny that NONE of those things has anything to do with macros or calories, right?

 

 

The biggest realization I’ve had about the subject of nutrition is this:  Lasting results only come from conscious eating habit change, which can only happen when we first change how we THINK.

 

So really, when we talk about eating habits, we’re really talking about thinking habits—our thought patterns and beliefs, aka: our mindset.

 

I talk so damn much about eating because I loathe people getting all hung up on the idea of the ‘perfect diet’ or that they NEED to go on another kind of diet, or, conversely the belief that they’re helpless in creating lasting change in their own lives, that they’re powerless over how they eat.

 

 

Why do I loathe diets

Because diets breed helplessness and take away from ownership of our behaviors. 

 

 

 

They put the solution outside of ourselves, in someone else’s hands, when the real solution can only be found by doing the ‘inside job’ of changing how we think so we can change how we act.

 

So when I talk about eating, I’m really talking about thinking—about our attitudes about food, helpful or unhelpful beliefs about our selves. 

I’m talking about improving awareness of our self-talk (e.g.:  I always, I never, I just can’t help myself, nothing works for me, I’m just an ‘X’ addict, I’m a stress-eater, I’m an emotional eater—any of these sound familiar to you??), so that we can change our truth, and therefore make it possible to choose differently and make more progress with our nutrition.

 

 

I talk about awareness and attitudes because they create the possibility for ownership—taking full responsibility for all our own food choices, the chance to be ‘the captain of our own ship.’

 

 

Yes, we all come to the table, so to speak, with a certain set of genetics, a certain family food history, and whatever adult eating patterns we’ve developed so far.

 

But these pieces of the puzzle don’t dictate our future—only our consistent choices do that.  Only our consistent CHOICES.  We are in charge of our choices, especially when we take the time and make the effort to become aware of our self-talk, food history and current patterns of behavior.

 

 

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In the end, I talk about eating so damn much because it has such a huge impact on our lives, and I talk about mindset and mindfulness around eating because this is what dictates our relative success or limitations.

As Mahatma Gandhi said,
“Your beliefs become your thoughts,
Your thoughts become your words,
Your words become your actions,
Your actions become your habits,
Your habits become your values,
Your values become your destiny.” 

 

 

When we are mindful, we are fully in charge of our choices; we can choose to change our minds about ourselves and food, and that’s when we can REALLY start changing and making those lasting, impactful nutrition choices.

 

 

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xo,

Kate

What do you do when you F— it all up?

 What do you do when you F- it all up?

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You had the best of intentions. 

You were off to a great start.

You’d made so much progress.

You’d gotten so much stronger.

The workouts were easier.

The pants fit better.

Things were really starting to fall into place…and then.

And then something knocked you off-course or for a loop.
A vacation.
An illness in the family.
A super stressful event or period of time.
And then…you find yourself struggling again, feeling like a failure, feeling shame you ‘couldn’t hack it,’  that you let yourself down, or family or friends down….
It happens!!
To even the best of us.  From time to time, we all struggle.
Some life event impacts our routine, disrupts our ‘normal,’ causes resistance, or throws us back into old coping mechanisms.
Sometimes this means we stop working out—or working out as much.  Sometimes this means we stray too far and too long from our better, more healthful eating patterns.  Sometimes this means we burn the candle at both ends, leaving ourselves a fried mess unable to cope—or using unhealthy or unhelpful coping mechanisms.
  And we feel bad—because we KNOW better, right?!?
Again—it happens.  What matters more, what matters the MOST, really, is what we do next.
So we F’d it up again.  Well, done is done.  We can either wallow in it, tell ourselves how weak and pathetic and stupid we are, thinking that berating ourselves will lead us to ‘behaving’ again, or….Or.
Or we can do a few of these things:
1.  Acknowledge our F-Up. 
Name it, own it, then leave it behind us.  Done is done, and no good comes from beating the proverbial dead horse; clinging to our ‘failings’ actually prevents us from growing and changing.  Move on!
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2.  Look for the Lesson.
As much as we might hate it, there’s always a lesson in those hard moments and times, or an opportunity for personal growth.I’ve learned over time, through dealing with and recovering from numerous injuries and health issues over the years, that there’s always something that can be learned out of an illness or injury.
Sometimes that means learning to literally DO things differently—in the gym or at home.It can mean learning how much eating well impacts how we feel or makes or breaks our health.
Sometimes it means reevaluating our lifestyle, and cutting out the things that really aren’t working FOR us, even if those changes are unpopular.
Sometimes it means checking our ego at the door—either the ego that’s prompting us to do things that aren’t good for our bodies because we think we can or should or have something to prove, or the ego that screams at us: “I want what I want and I want it right NOW and I deserve it right NOW,” like an angry toddler would.
Whatever knocked you off-track, hung you up, derailed your efforts, or sidelined you (temporarily), there IS a lesson in there.
Look for it, ask the hard questions:
  • What did I do to get myself here?
  • What do I need to do to get myself OUT of here?
  • And what can I do to avoid doing this again??
3.  Take action—NOW.
It doesn’t have to be huge or perfect, it just needs to be action.
  • Start by eating a veggie at your next meal or snack.
  • Get up and go for a walk.
  • Do a few squats or push ups.
  • Read an article or book that helps you ‘grit it up’ a bit more.
  • Listen to a podcast that inspires you.
  • Call someone who supports you (not an enabler, but someone who loves you and will help you take the next step forward).

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DO NOT TEXT OR EMAIL OR SEND ANY KIND OF ELECTRONIC MESSAGE—CALL THEM.  You know, in real time, just like the good ole days 😉
4.  Use the Lesson(s) to make a new plan. 
  • What did you learn from this experience? 
  • Where did you ‘fall down’ or where did things go sideways on you?
  • What can you do to be derailed LESS by this same kind of situation, should it happen again?
  • What can you do to avoid the same, or a similar, pitfall?
  • What resources do you need?
  • What kind of planning do you need to do?
  • And how are you going to go forward, from right where you’re at, right now?
5.  Just get moving.  Keep moving.  Find a mantra or create a mantra, and put that puppy all over the place.
Mantras can add to our grit, shore up our commitment to a goal or project–even when it’s not going well; mantras can help refocus us when we feel like we’re on the ropes. They can create positive energy, and keep us focused on moving forwards and doing our best.
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And if you don’t have one yet, maybe finding a short, meaningful and memorable saying is just the thing you need to help keep you motivated, focused and positive!
As Mahatma Gandhi said,
“Your beliefs become your thoughts,
Your thoughts become your words,
Your words become your actions,
Your actions become your habits,
Your habits become your values,
Your values become your destiny.”
And remember this, above all else:
“Failure is not in the falling down, but the staying down.”
~ Unknown
If you’re not sure where to start, your fitness or nutrition have been lagging, let’s chat!
We can get on the phone, or email or FaceTime or Skype, etc, and start working out a plan to get you heading in a better direction again.  20 minute ‘Recharge’ chats are totally complementary 🙂
You can reach me at kate@reallifefitbykate.com
And if you’ve fallen off the workout ‘horse,’ try climbing back on with this simple ladder workout you can do pretty much anywhere!  https://youtu.be/BZF91zEUBZU
Keep your head up and keep moving forward!
Kate

 

The Tiramisu Epiphany

My Tiramisu Epiphany…and how it changed how I thought about eating.

 

It’s funny the moments that stick with us.

Those little snapshots in time where we can recall so clearly where we where, what we were wearing, who we were with, what we were doing, what we were thinking…especially when we also spend a fair amount of our lives wandering up and down the aisles of the grocery store, trying to remember that one item we were supposed to get.

(It recently took me 5 separate trips to the commissary to remember to get cinnamon. True story.)

 

 

My tiramisu epiphany was one of those moments.

 

 

It was the first of March 2006, and I’d made my husband the birthday dinner and dessert he requested (it’s a tradition in our family), and we’d just finished a peaceful dinner together, as our 9 month-old was already in bed.

 

 

It was time for dessert—a tiramisu recipe I’d found in a University of Washington Husky Alum cookbook. By the way, this recipe is to die for…and sure to elevate your blood alcohol level. Go Huskies, lol!

 

 

About mid-way through dessert, I noticed the meal planner lying on the couch next to me that had come from The Firm’s kit I’d purchased back in November. I’d flipped through it recently, but was really less than thrilled about their diet recommendations—dessert was a granny smith apple, definitely a far sight from tiramisu!

 

 

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Seeing the meal planner made my mind leapfrog to earlier in the day when I’d weighed myself, a little disappointed to find I’d only lost a pound since New Years, despite the fact that I’d been doing The Firm videos religiously and my stamina had improved dramatically. It also made me realize my pants weren’t fitting any better than they had been—I still felt ‘thick’ around the middle.

 

 

And it hit me like a ton of bricks: I just couldn’t exercise off my eating any longer.

 

 

In my 20’s, it was relatively easy to just exercise more to make up for eating indulgently. I wouldn’t lose weight without changing what I ate, but I could at least keep kind of an even keel (although, hindsight being 20/20, I doubt I was ever on an even keel).

 

 

After I turned 30 and had my first baby, all in the same year, this was no longer possible—it just took me 9 + months to realize it.

 

 

Why am I telling you this story?

 

Two reasons: 1. To illustrate that many of us have those pivotal moments/moments of clarity or epiphanies, and 2. I had ZERO idea what to do next to help myself. ZERO—because the way I cooked and ate tasted good, but I had NO intention of trying The Firm’s diet plan (again—a granny smith apple for dessert?!?).

 

 

It took me another 8 months and the help of a personal trainer and her food journal to even get half a clue about where to start. And it’s taken me another nearly 10 years to get to the reasonable and sustainable way of eating I practice today.

 

 

Man, how awesome would it have been to have a few tips, tricks and shortcuts instead of having to go through years of trial and error and self-education to figure things out!!

 

 

But the gorgeous thing about that story and my process is that I get to share what I’ve learned with you, and maybe cut your learning curve down a bit, getting you on a path of sustainable, reasonable eating habits sooner rather than later.

 

 

Which leads me back to the food journal.

 

 

While exercise will make your fitter—and happier, I’d argue—improved nutrition and healthier eating habits is the only way to truly lose weight, lose body fat and inches, and just plain feel and perform better all around.

 

 

We just can’t out-exercise a poor, or unhelpful diet.

 

 

Knowing where to start, though, is different than knowing you need to start, and that’s where the food journal comes in!

 

(Don’t have a good one?  Get one sent straight to your inbox with this link:  Real Life Fit by Kate Food Journal )

 

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Once you’ve completed a few days of full, honest food tracking in your journal, you have data with which to start making choices and changes. Specifically, you have solid information about all of the following, influential diet factors:

 

  • The time(s) of day you tend to eat most often
  • Length of time between ‘feedings’
  • Typical foods you eat/foods you eat the most of
  • Foods you eat the least of
  • Kinds of beverages you drink, and how often
  • How your emotional state affects your food choices
  • How your environment affects your food choices

 

These are all REALLY important pieces in our eating habits puzzle, and all relatively easy to identify and understand when they’re in black and white on the paper in front of us. It’s like we get a little peek into the way our minds and bodies work—super cool.

 

 

But what’s best about all this information is that it puts us back into the driver’s seat—it gives us a place from which to start making the most meaningful and helpful changes.

 

 

So when you look at your food journal, what patterns leap out at you?

  • Are there times of day where you don’t eat at all, or that you tend to eat large amounts of food?
  • Do you go for hours and hours between ‘feedings,’ or are you grazing throughout the day?
  • What foods are you eating the most?
  • Are you drinking lots of sugary or high-calorie drinks?
  • How much water are you drinking?
  • Do you tend to eat more when your emotions are amplified in some way (angry, sad, stressed)?
  • Do you eat at your desk, in front of the TV, while driving, while standing in your kitchen, while wandering around somewhere?
  • Do you eat at home more or out at restaurants? What kind(s) of restaurants?

 

 

All of these simple, but important factors—our scientific ‘data,’ give us some insight into what our current patterns REALLY are, versus the impression we might have had of how, when, what and how much we’re really consuming on an average day.

 

 

That insight, in turn, gives us a starting point for making reasonable, personally meaningful and impactful changes—ONE at a time.

 

 

So if you haven’t been ready to use a food journal until now, maybe this perspective on how it can be a hugely helpful tool for positive change will give you the nudge you needed to get started.

 

And if you’ve already started your food journaling efforts, I hope this gives your food journal evaluation a little more focus!

 

 

If you have any questions at all, or need a little more guidance, shoot me an email! I’d love to chat with you—either through email OR on the phone for a 20-minute coaching session 🙂

 

If you’re wanting/needing more support, we talk nutrition, eating habits, and helpful mindsets all the time in my Real Life Fit, Healthy and Happy Facebook group.  Click here to check it out ==>  Real Life Fit, Healthy and Happy

 

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Why adding MORE gets you results.

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So you got off-track.

 

Your best intentions for getting or staying on a regular exercise schedule didn’t pan out.

 

Maybe your ‘I’m going to start eating better’ plan didn’t come to fruition.

 

And you might be feeling a little disappointed, maybe a little lethargic, maybe a lot unmotivated.

 

What do you do now?  

 

Go on some crazy, extreme ‘quick fix’ to get yourself ‘right’ again? Throw out the baby with the bathwater in the process, while you throw yourself headlong into a massive diet-and-exercise overhaul…only to have it all backslide after 3 weeks of ‘being good’ and ‘on-plan’?

 

Or….

 

Or maybe you start over, TODAY, with just ONE small change that’s pointing you in a healthier, happier direction.

 

One small improvement you can make each day: a ‘plus ONE’ approach.

 

Now, making one small change might sound, well, kind of insignificant, or maybe even a little wimpy. It’s not the grand, brag-worthy, intense, restrictive, grueling ‘fix’ that you can tell everyone you’re toughing it out through.

 

Then again, how long would that grueling, Herculean effort actually last? In my personal and professional experience, about 3 weeks. Sometimes 4, but that’s pretty generous. And it inevitably leads back to square one, in a hurry, with the extra mental baggage of having ‘failed’ once again.

 

So instead of trying to ‘right the ship’ all in one fell swoop, maybe using a more reasonable, realistic and just plain long-term effective approach, like the Plus ONE approach, is a better way to go right now!

 

Here’s the deal:
** +1 is always greater than zero
**  +’everything all at once’ can only be a painful sprint effort at best (meaning it can only last a short time)

 

 

But Plus ONE? Plus 1 is do-able. It’s a small win, a consistent measureable sign of doing better that we can handle, that we can stick with, that we can feel proud of.

 

So what does this Plus 1 approach look like in real life?

 

 

It might depend on what your biggest challenges are currently, or what’s the easiest thing for you to tackle right away—because taking action is key to making this kind of approach work. It might be something that you are super confident you can do consistently right now.

 

Possibilities, based on the challenges I regularly hear my clients and readers face, could include:

 

  • drinking one more glass of water each day
  • changing their after-dinner snack
  • adding in just one more serving of veggies each day
  • adding in just 10 minutes of movement to each day
  • adding in one strength training workout per week
  • adding a short walk to the after-dinner ritual
  • adding one serving of protein to breakfast (or lunch, or dinner…)

 

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Notice it’s ALL about ADDING 1 thing IN, as opposed to taking things out, excluding or restricting or avoiding.

 

 

It’s about making workable additions and ‘crowding out’ old behaviors with new ones—because our brains aren’t wired to ditch old patterns of behavior (kind of inconvenient, I know), but they ARE wired to learn new patterns of behavior, and when these patterns are repeated many times over time, they become the ‘new normal.’

 

 

That’s why consistency is such a big deal—and engaging in small, easily repeatable behaviors is so much more effective in creating the habits we want to have so that we can lead the kind of life we desire to lead.

 

 

It’s like what Tony Robbins says, “In essence, if we want to direct our lives, we must take control of our consistent actions. It’s not what we do once in a while that shapes our lives, but what we do consistently.”

 

 

Extremes, by nature aren’t sustainable. Plus 1? Those we can do every day.

 

And when the first Plus 1 becomes normal—just a regular part of daily real life, then you get to Plus 1 another thing. By ‘plussing up’ regularly and consistently, you will effect massive change over time—on your mind, your body and your life.

 

Give the Plus 1 approach a shot TODAY!

 

Remember to think about ONE thing that either challenges you the most right now, or is the easiest to act on right now, or one positive change you are super confident you can do and stick with right NOW.

 

Maybe one of the suggestions above can be a great place for you to start! Whatever it is, take action—don’t wait or hesitate. Because it’s what we DO consistently that shapes our lives.

 

What are you waiting for? 🙂

 

 

To help you get even more consistent with healthier, more helpful choices, I’ve created the FREE Back to YOU Boot Camp 7-Day Challenge.

 

Now that the kids are back to school, vacations and summer holidays are behind us, it’s time to get back to focusing on YOU.

 

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Get back into the swing of things and start building back up those consistent exercise and healthier eating habits with the FREE 7-day “Back to You Boot Camp” challenge!

 

What it is:

 

The FREE Back to You Boot Camp Challenge is a 7-day workout and healthier eating ‘reset’ challenge, designed to help you get back to working out more consistently, eating a little better, and feeling like your best you all over again.

Through 7 days of 30-minute or less workouts, daily nutrition mini-challenges, and motivation-boosters, we’ll create ‘inertia-based motivation’ that will keep you moving long after the 7 days are over—because bodies in motion tend to stay in motion (just ask Einstein).

 

 

Head on over to the official B2YBC page by clicking the link here to get all the details and get signed up! The challenge starts September 6, so you have plenty of time to commit yourself and get ready to rock out 7 days of consistent workouts and fun daily nutrition mini-challenges.

 

It’s FREE, fun, and full of support from both me and a whole community of positive, dynamic women!

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But don’t wait too long to sign up!!

 

Registration closes TONIGHT at midnight!!

 

Keep ‘plussing up’ and I’ll talk to you soon 🙂

 

Kate

One tool to feel better in your own skin right NOW.

Love what you’ve got.

 

 

Some women showcase their legs, or cleavage, or glutes; I showcase my back and shoulders!

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Traveling in Europe always gives me perspective on the concepts of what’s beautiful, what’s desireable, what’s ‘normal.’

 

 

When I was 14 years younger, newly married and living in Germany the first time, I would drive myself crazy comparing myself to other women, and always come up short and feeling ‘less than.’

 

 

But at a certain point, I actively chose to see my strengths not just my ‘flaws,’ to appreciate my own human vehicle while also appreciating other people’s.

 

 

It is possible to see other people’s strengths and beauty and appreciate them without it taking away from our own.

 

 

We can say, “she’s gorgeous” without it meaning we’re not, and we can say that we’re gorgeous without it meaning that someone else isn’t or is less so…it just took me 38ish years to internalize that lesson 🙂

 

 

Work what you’ve got, love what you’ve got, don’t worry about what you don’t.

 

 

Ditch the comparison trap and just be YOUR best you every day.

 

 

Life’s way more peaceful this way ❤️

 

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6 Counterintuitive Strategies for Fast (and Lasting!) Weight Loss

This week’s blog post is a guest post from my talented and knowledgeable friend and fellow fitness pro, Becky Williams, of BKinetic Fitness.  When I need a little more fat-loss guidance, I turn to Becky for her expertise.  Plus, she has outstanding taste in books and friends 😉 Enjoy the read!

 

6 Counterintuitive Strategies for Fast and Lasting Weight Loss

 

When it comes to losing weight, we tend to rely on a few tried-and-true tactics. And whether or not they actually work for us, we keep going back to them and blame our ourselves for our inability to stick with them properly and get the results that we want.

 

This is when it helps to look for another way. To do something that seems at its surface to go against the grain of conventional wisdom. But then again, sometimes conventional wisdom gets it all wrong. Or, at the very least, wrong for us.

 

If you’re ready to try something different, read on.

 

  1. Eat Carbs

The practice of drastically cutting carbs has been all the rage over the past fifteen years or so. It has become the go-to tactic when it comes to losing weight. And that’s not necessarily a bad thing, as many of us eat too many and the wrong types of carbs for our activity levels and goals. And it’s so very tempting to lose a few lbs. right off the bat (mostly water weight though). But it’s easy to overdo it.

 

Carbs play a very important role in our diet — they give us quick energy, as glucose is the fuel that our brains and bodies need and use most readily.  They also help build muscle.

 

But cutting carbs really low can cause a variety of unpleasant side effects:  fatigue, irritability, insomnia, lowered metabolic rate, increased stress hormones, suppressed immune function, and impaired thyroid function.  Women seem to be more sensitive to the effects of a lack of carbs, particularly with hormone regulation.

 

A good goal is to eat as many carbs as possible while still seeing results.  This will help keep your performance in the gym at a good level, help prevent undue hormonal imbalances due to prolonged dieting, and give you something to play with if you hit a plateau.  If you start a diet at 25-50 grams of carbs a day or less, then you don’t have a whole lot of wiggle room down the road.  You can only drop your carbs down so low before it becomes counterproductive and miserable.

 

Start by tracking your food for a few days and then cut out one serving of a starchy or processed carb source (pasta, rice, cereal, granola bars, bread, etc.). After 2 weeks or so, assess how you feel (appetite, cravings, energy) and any results that you’re seeing before making any changes (if it ain’t broke, don’t fix it!).

 

 

  1. Skip the Cardio

Gasp! No cardio?!? That’s just crazy talk!

 

Yes, I am completely serious. And I used to be a cardio queen back in the day, running, elliptical-ing, cycling, kickboxing, stair-climbing till the cows came home. I thought that’s what I had to do to lose weight and maintain it — 45 minutes to up to 2 hours a day, 5-6 days a week, week in and week out. I was able to keep that pace up in my teens and twenties fairly easily, but now that I’m 37, I need far more recovery and smarter training.

 

Traditional cardio, like moderate-intensity steady state jogging or spin classes, should be treated as frosting on top of the cake, not the main dish. It’s a not-entirely-necessary but tasty addition in the right dosage. Sometimes it really enhances it, but other times it’s just too much.

 

The reason for this is three-fold. First, weight training is far more effective and efficient for fat loss (I’ll discuss this more below). Second, cardio tends to jack up cravings and appetite, leading to overeating and canceling out any calorie burn and then some. And third, your body will adapt to the volume of exercise that you do, and thus burn fewer calories for the same amount of work.  So that 3 miles that you run every day will boost your stamina (yay!) but will burn fewer calories (boo!).

 

And there is only so much exercise that you can do before it starts to be counterproductive and interferes with your recovery and lifestyle.

 

So the key is to be conservative with your cardio and only sprinkle it in as necessary to see continued results.  It is simply one tool out of many for fat loss, and certainly not the most important one.  As with anything, program your cardio according to your goals.  If your priority is losing fat, do as little as possible and focus on nutrition and lifting weights first and foremost.  But if your main goal is to do a 10k or a half-marathon, then by all means do as much as your training plan calls for to accomplish that mission.  Just know that your weight loss efforts will be impacted.

 

The one form of cardio that I wholeheartedly recommend to everyone? Leisure walking.

 

It’s fantastic for stress management (we can all do with some of that!), especially if you do it outdoors among nature.  It does burn a few calories, but more importantly, it activates our parasympathetic nervous system, slowing down our heart rate and increasing digestion (also known as the “rest and digest system”). This greatly enhances our recovery from exercise and the stresses of daily life.

 

 

  1. Order Dessert

I can hear all of you fellow choco-holics out there cheering yaaassss!!! Usually dessert and sweets are the first to go when dieting. And with good reason, as they are usually sugar/starch/fat bombs, which makes it more likely to be stored as fat.

 

Buuuuutttt….. Completely depriving ourselves of something we enjoy over a long period of time usually backfires. It’s like telling someone to not think of pink elephants. Our mind will repeatedly go back to pink elephants and how we need to think about something else. Same with our favorite treats. They’ll become all we think about, because it’s something that we can’t have. It steals our willpower, so even if we don’t give in to that temptation, we’ll struggle with everything else, whether that’s drinking more water, eating more veggies, and getting to the gym regularly. Pretty soon, even the most stoic of us will give in somewhere, and we all know how crappy that feels.

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So pick a few things that will satisfy your sweet tooth (or whatever else you crave the most) but won’t completely derail your efforts. For me, it’s dark chocolate, sugar-free fro-yo or Halo Top ice cream, and chocolate chip cookie dough Quest protein bars. I keep the portions appropriate (no binging) and, depending on my goals, I enjoy one of them a few times a week or once a day. And every once in a while, go ahead and share a dessert with a friend or loved one. Savor a few bites and then move on.

 

However, if you have a trigger food (something that you know you can’t eat just a small portion of and causes even more cravings), then avoiding that would be wise.

 

The goal here is to create built-in buffers against feelings of deprivation, in addition to cultivating a nutrition strategy that we can use for life, not just for 12 weeks.

 

 

  1. Take a Bath

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Throw in some Epsom salts and essential oil (like lavender, eucalyptus, or peppermint) and get to relaxing and recovering.

 

Although stress has no calories, it can certainly make us gain stubborn weight.   One of the hormones that surge during times of stress is cortisol.  But cortisol is like anything else in our bodies, it can be a negative or a positive force.  We know it as a fat-storing hormone.  However, it can also be a fat-burning hormone.

 

We just tend to have too much of it in response to the chronic, daily stressors of modern living coupled with a lack of quality exercise, sleep, and diet. Although acute elevations in cortisol help burn fat, such as during high intensity interval-style exercise and strength training, excess prolonged elevations in cortisol can stimulate fat storage. It can also lead to muscle loss in the absence of muscle-building hormones (another great reason to lift weights!).

 

Managing stress is a key, but often overlooked, piece of the fat loss puzzle because of the effect it has not only on the body in general (muscle tension, headaches, etc. leading to lackluster or missed workouts and deviation from diet) but also on many of our hormones. An imbalance of vital hormones, such as cortisol, testosterone, and estrogen, throws fat loss into a tailspin. More calories are stored as fat, less muscle is built, muscle is broken down, and strength and energy levels suffer.

 

Our hunger hormones get out of whack as well, making it seem as though we have suddenly developed a bottomless pit for a stomach. It’s not your imagination that you crave more sweet and fatty foods when you’re stressed.

 

So put your phone away and chillax in the tub with a good book and enjoy some much-needed “me time.”

 

  1. Lift Heavy Stuff

Building strength and muscle is not just for bodybuilders. It is a critical component of fat loss and overall health.

 

Sadly, as we age, we lose precious lean muscle. On average, women lose 5 pounds of muscle mass per decade between age 25 and 65, leading to a 2-4% decline in metabolic rate with each decade as well.

 

Muscle is what really transforms your body, giving you the “tight and toned” look. Sparing muscle during a fat loss phase is especially important. When deprived of adequate calories, our bodies will take fuel from wherever it can – muscles, fat stores, and glycogen stores. And when we lose a significant portion of muscle in addition to fat, we may get smaller, but we’ll most likely have the same shape. Plus, we’ll be burning fewer calories throughout the day, which will make weight regain much more likely.

 

Consistent weight training ensures that less muscle tissue is used for fuel and that even more is built over time. The more muscle you have, the more calories you burn at rest. The “afterburn effect”, also known as Excess Post-exercise Oxygen Consumption (EPOC), also contributes to the increase in calories burned after the workout. The body increases oxygen use after exercise to bring various processes back to baseline and to recover. This process takes energy (ie calories).

 

Plus, the mental benefits and amazing sense of empowerment that comes from lifting weights tends to carry over into other areas of our lives, improving our overall quality of life.

 

 

  1. Read a Book

When we seek to make a change in our lives, it helps to get our minds right first. Everything we do is connected to our mindset, for better or worse. Our success is intricately tied to whether or not we can harness of the power of our thoughts and underlying beliefs. Anyone who has ever struggled with emotional eating or self-sabotage can relate. Grabbing a carefully selected book can help us to gain a new perspective, make some critical mindset shifts, and inspire us.

 

A few of my top picks:

 

Mindset: The New Psychology of Success by Carol Dweck. http://amzn.to/29DimnU Dweck explains why it’s not just our abilities and talent that bring us success—but whether we approach them with a fixed or growth mindset.

 

The Willpower Instinct by Kelly McGonigal. http://amzn.to/29zE2O2

This book discusses not only the science of self-control, but also includes simple actionable tips to increase it.

 

Grit by Angela Duckworth. http://amzn.to/29xrqWK

Psychologist Duckworth shows anyone striving to succeed—be it parents, students, educators, athletes, or business people—that the secret to outstanding achievement is not talent but a special blend of passion and persistence she calls “grit.” So even if you don’t have an athletic bone in your body, you can still learn to kick butt at fitness.

 

Ultramarathon Man by Dean Karnazes. http://amzn.to/29SGKmr

He was just an average guy, unhappy and stuck in a rut, who decides one day to start running. And he doesn’t stop. Not even to refuel with a whole pizza (delivered while running in the middle of the night). It’s fascinating to read about his wacky adventures while running ridiculously long distances. And I love how he just starts. He doesn’t wait for the perfect time. He just took action and figured it all out as he went along. You really feel his love of movement shine through, and it makes you want to throw on your sneakers and get outside.

 

On My Own Two Feet by Amy Purdy. http://amzn.to/29Aszii

On the cusp of her twenties, the author contracts bacterial meningitis, resulting in having both legs amputated at the knee. Years later, she now snowboards competitively, including earning a medal in the 2014 Paralympics. She also competed on Dancing With The Stars. Her journey is a testament to the resilience of the human spirit and the capacity we all have to dream bigger, defy expectations, and rewrite our stories.

 

 

The right book can be a total gamechanger. And if you’re a busy multi-tasker, check out Audible.com. Listening to audiobooks during your commute, a workout, or while doing housework is a great way to learn and be inspired if you’re short on time and energy.

It’s understandable if you’re a bit hesitant to take on these tactics. We’ve been all but brainwashed by the mainstream media for so long to throw ourselves headlong into an intense cardio routine (hello, Insanity), slash our carb intake, and deprive ourselves of every bit of delicious food that we love. But isn’t it time to try a new way?

 

Pick one strategy and see how it goes. Experiment and try to have fun with the process. There are no hard and fast rules, just what works for you. Sometimes you have to dare to take a more unusual approach to get the results that you want.

 

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BeckyWilliams_headshotBecky Williams is a personal trainer for women who struggle with perfectionism and who have lost their fitness mojo.

Through her blog posts, effective workouts, and sane and simple nutrition tips, she’s here to shake up your approach to fitness and fat loss – while making it all feel like a fun game you never want to stop playing.

And when she’s not helping women build a powerful body and life, you can find her cheering on her favorite soccer team, FC Dallas, savoring an Americano and the occasional glass of pinot grigio (although not at the same time), or cuddling her ridiculously adorable orange tabbies, Sheldon and Theodore.

 

Meet Becky and get ready to uncover your inner badass at bkinetic.com.

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